From Anxious to Confident in Three steps
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Let’s Transform Your Dating Patterns
You’re used to meeting someone new. The connection feels intense. Your heart races. Your mind spins. And the pattern begins...
Getting deeply attached quickly
Making them your main focus
Overanalyzing every interaction
Walking on eggshells
Losing yourself in the connection
Checking your astrology compatibly
Imagining your future.
HOLD UP! Before you fall into the same pattern again, let's slow down.
When anxiety kicks in about a new connection, it can make you jump into old patterns. That's how great potential gets derailed before it even has a chance. Or how we end up dating the same guy with a different face, over and over again!
🔥 Your Next Steps Can Be a Game Changer!
How you handle these early feelings makes all the difference. Understanding your patterns gives you clarity and helps you stay grounded. What you do next WILL change everything!
Step 1: Pattern Recognition ✨
Below, check off what feels familiar when dating someone new:
□ You're already imagining a future together after 2-3 dates
□ You can't stop excitedly talking about them to anyone who'll listen
□ You carefully craft each text, afraid of saying the wrong thing
□ You skip your usual yoga class just in case they want to make plans and you need to be available
□ You wait to see how they act first before sharing your thoughts or opinions
Now check how your body responds when you meet someone, do you know? Have you thought about this before? How the body responds has a lot to do with who we attract!
□ Does your heart race when you think about them
□ Do you feel butterflies that are more like anxiety
□ You can't focus at work when waiting for their text
□ You have trouble sleeping, thinking about them
□ Your appetite changes when waiting to hear from them
These are not a diagnosis or symptoms. But, it is the body speaking to us! It can help provide clues, hints and lead your direction. What can look and feel like "falling in love," can actually be your attachment system getting triggered instead? (how you relate and bond to someone in relationship).
There's a crucial difference between how love and attachment show up in dating.
Genuine interest vs Chemistry and anxious butterflies (which can feel like instant sparks)
Genuine connection vs. Attachment triggers
Secure pace (slow burn) vs. Anxious pacing.
Step 2: Pattern Interruption 🎯
Your current approach to dating might look like:
"If I try harder..."
"If I'm kinder and care more..."
"If I am more understanding..."
“If I play it cool and don’t show my anxiety, I won’t be too much”
"I can prove I'm worth staying for..."
“If I date the right sun and moon sign, they’ll be a good match”
Here's the truth: These patterns aren't creating the love you want. They're actually:
Pushing away potential good men
Keeping you stuck in anxiety (that you don’t deserve to feel)
Attracting the wrong matches
Creating a cycle of chase and withdrawal
But most importantly... They're preventing you from building real, secure connections.
And every time you go through this it shakes your confidence in yourself and in love, even more.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Step 3: Pattern Transformation ✨
Breaking free from anxious patterns isn't just about understanding them. It's about rewiring how you show up and how you respond to them.
Here's What Most Women Don't Know...
There are 3 critical stages to creating lasting change in your relationship and attachment patterns. (Both are connected).
Today, we've explored stage 1: Recognition. You have an understanding how you’re showing up.
But without mastering all three stages, you'll keep:
Recognizing patterns but feeling powerless to change them. You can’t see what you don’t know, yet. This is why you’re stuck in this pattern.
Starting off strong but losing yourself when triggered (spiral between texts and wondering what you’ve done wrong).
Attracting the same partners in different packages (because you’re doing it subconsciously. You can’t change what you can’t see or are unaware of.)
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Your attachment style isn't your fault, but shifting from anxious to secure is within your power. And you don't have to figure it out alone. 💕
I know exactly how you feel—dating can be overwhelming with the constant highs, lows, and second-guessing.
After countless failed relationships—including a deeply emotionally abusive one that nearly broke me—I hit rock bottom. That moment forced me to face the truth: something had to change. My anxious attachment was driving my love life and causing unnecessary heartache.
Through deep inner work, attachment healing, and the right support, I completely transformed my approach to love. In just 3 months, I went from swiping on dating apps to meeting my forever partner.
And that's why I created my Texting with Confidence course. Because I’ve been where you are, overwhelmed with uncertainty, unsure how to communicate, and anxious about how to navigate modern dating. In this course, I’ll show you how to text with clarity and confidence, so you stop the endless cycle of overthinking, miscommunication, and wasted time. You'll learn exactly what to say (and what NOT to say) to attract the kind of partner you deserve.
I’ve taken everything I’ve learned—from navigating emotional patterns to mastering confident communication—and put it into a simple, actionable strategy to help you get results fast. Let’s break the cycle, trust yourself, and start attracting the right kind of love.
Dating Coach | Internal Family Systems & Attachment Repatterning Practitioner
